My wife and I were sitting in the office of a marriage counselor as he gave us an, “interview”.
We had hit the proverbial bump in the road and had just agreed to seek counseling after two months of separation.
I asked the counselor what purpose an interview with him would serve towards the reconciliation of our marriage.
He told me the purpose of the interview was to determine if the two of us sincerely wanted to know the truth about our relationship with one another, and how to mend it, and whether or not he was willing to be our marriage counselor.
I was shocked.
He continued to tell us how most people don’t really want to know the truth in regard to what is wrong with their marriage.
“I estimate about 90 percent of the people who come to me for help don’t really want to know the truth about what’s wrong and how to fix it,” he said.
That was twenty years ago and I still remember the feeling of shock I had at the thought that most of us, more often than not, are reluctant to know the truth even when our very lives depend on it.
Yes, it has been tough at times. But we’re still married after 37 years.
And we owe a great debt of gratitude to a counselor who dared to be painfully honest with us even though we could have easily been offended and walked out of the office that day.
We have learned a great lesson;
The truth is often hard to take, but is always best for us.
We should always follow the truth no matter where it leads us.
C. S. Lewis reflected on his conversion to Christianity in a similar way in his book, “Surprised by Joy”.
“You must picture me alone in that room in Magdalen, night after night, feeling, whenever my mind lifted even for a second from my work, the steady, unrelenting approach of Him whom I so earnestly desired not to meet. That which I greatly feared had at last come upon me. In the Trinity Term of 1929 I gave in, and admitted that God was God, and knelt and prayed: perhaps, that night, the most dejected and reluctant convert in all England.”
~C.S.Lewis~
Consider what Jesus said in regards to the truth ;
“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”
(John 8:32 NKJV)
“Jesus said to him, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me.”
(John 14:6 NKJV)
The truth is that we all need Jesus as Savior before this life ends, reluctant as we may be to accept that He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.
Follow Jesus.
4 responses to “Desire to Know Truth No Matter Where It Leads You”
alec
July 24th, 2015 at 04:31
You’ve highlighted a brilliant insight here that we can all stand to be reminded of from time to time. Even people like the previous commenter who claims to want to know truth, really does not want to know if it challenges his preconceptions. Maybe all of us are like this to some degree. I hope that with God’s help I become less sure of my own righteousness and more sure of the true righteousness which comes from Him.
Have featured your post in: Eyes & Ears on Love and Truth.
Alec
Christ Centered Teaching
July 24th, 2015 at 20:48
I agree Alec. We can all be given to self delusion. We see so much of it. One is inclined to believe that nobody is immune to it.
I fall back on the thought Bonhoffer reflected on when imprisoned by the Nazi regime. “Whatever I am, Lord thou knowest, I am Thine. ”
Thanks for the encouraging words.
God bless you and keep you.
Christ Centered Teaching
November 29th, 2014 at 20:09
I must disagree with you.
A loving God would make a way for us and did.
Jesus said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No man comes to the Father but by me.”
I know of no statement that is more exclusive or clearer than this.
God chose and made the way. Jesus Christ.
This is love. For God so loved.
jasonjshaw
October 13th, 2014 at 16:02
Some very good insights about truth! Be careful when suggesting that we all need Jesus though. It can be easy to be led down a particular path and accept it as the ‘right’ way if all of your context comes from within that path. Truth is not one path. Truth is finding understanding in all paths.
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